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Mars – “Outta My WAY!”

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This retrograding Mars has been wreaking havoc in our household. The adults have been feeling utterly devoid of energy (Mars) – totally exhausted – and very much looking forward to its passing! But it has been making itself felt in other ways, too…

Teddy, now a whopping 18 months old, is undergoing his first Mars conjunct Sun transit.
Mars: energy, anger, vitality, feistiness, self-interest, independence; and Sun: identity, self, ego, how we make ourselves noticed.

We have witnessed this transit’s energies in him in the following ways:

  • this happy, gentle baby has suddenly begun shouting and screaming as never before;
  • the bump on Bertie’s head shows that he was sitting rather too close to a metal-fire-engine-wielding smaller brother; and
  • he has totally given up sleeping during the day despite being patently shattered, preferring to chat and holler in his cot until he simply cannot keep his eyes open any longer.

Ted has developed an independent streak a mile wide and would far rather walk everywhere than be carried. Given his already quite surprising physical strength, carrying him down the stairs when he’d rather be throwing himself down them, or playing in his brothers’ bedroom, has become something akin to trying to wrestle an angry gorilla… not easy!

All of this has the flavour of the first Mars return at two years old: the point at which Mars has returned to its placement at birth, and the marking of the ‘Terrible Twos’, when the independence, energy and fury of Mars can make itself felt in the most uncomfortable and difficult of ways, depending on how stressed your Mars placement is in your birth chart.

I am grateful for two things:
1) astrological understanding means that I am not concerned that my once gentle and cuddly baby has been forever replaced with a noisy tantrum-thrower: the final pass is on 8th May and this new-found feistiness will then begin to ease off and fade away. It is, as all things, impermanent; and
2) his natal Mars is not too challenging, which should mean that the Terrible Twos will not bring a repeat performance (though I’ll have to check out his Mars Return chart to be totally sure) 🙂

If your little one has been acting out of the ordinary lately, there will be an explanation for it. If you are interested, worried, or tearing your hair out, please feel free to visit my website: www.alicestrology.com
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Moon/Pluto – Watch out for the wave!

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I’ve been wanting to write about Moon/Pluto for some time. It is an aspect that runs through my family and understanding it is key to avoiding many an unpleasant or difficult situation. Not only has it helped me enormously to get a handle on my own feelings, but it has enabled me to relate to and interact with my children (who are all endowed with this aspect too) in a much more compassionate and patient manner.

The person with Moon and Pluto in aspect has the potential for an enormously intense emotional life. The Moon placement describes your emotional needs and the circumstances that bring you emotional security. Pluto takes those emotions and supercharges them with the mother of all lightning bolts! The Moon pulls the tides of course, and the most accurate description I can offer of this aspect’s influence is that of being swept away on a tidal wave of feeling.  Not a problem if you’re happy, but if those feelings are difficult ones, then you find yourself plunged – quite suddenly – into a whole world of pain.

Since the Moon also describes your home environment and your sense of security, and Pluto describes a deep and intense anxiety, this aspect also brings with it a challenge to develop trust. There is usually something about the home or family life that has shaken the sense of security and trust in the world, and it is this that we are being challenged to re-establish.

As with any challenging aspect, awareness is the first step to relief and, speaking from personal experience, I had almost four decades of being carried off on these waves with no understanding of where they came from, where they were taking me, what their purpose was or how to escape them.

Mercifully I can report that with awareness of the aspect and its patterns, I have monitored my own emotional life very closely and am now able (thank the heavens!) to recognise when I am in the grips of such an ‘episode’. I have learned not to take the depths I am experiencing too seriously, to give myself some breathing space, and to trust that the world will simply not look this dramatic in a relatively short period of time.

The key understanding is this: the trust needs to be transferred from the enormous and difficult emotions back to the Universe. 

But how invaluable that information, that breakthrough, would have been when I was younger! How  many apparently unbearably difficult times would I have survived with less scarring if I had understood that, in truth, the storm in that moment was only on the surface, and that the calm and happy depths of my ocean were actually unmoved? How valuable, then, to be able to teach that same lesson to our children!

For the purposes of dealing with someone in the grips of one of these tsunamis, here are several guiding points that might help:

1) Don’t negate the feelings. What the Moon/Pluto child is feeling right now is life or death. It is all-consuming and there is no way out. It is the most important and difficult moment of their life. Don’t make light of it. Don’t laugh. Give them a cuddle. Allow them to ride it out.

2) At the same time, try not to engage in too much conversation about these feelings, or ‘enable’ them too much. The chances are that in an hour’s time, that same ‘desperate’ child will be pretty confused and somewhat embarrassed about why on earth they were in such a state in the first place. Just be an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on.

3) Learn to monitor the external conditions of your child’s life, too: tiredness and hunger are a fast-track to difficult and intense feelings. These days, before I even ask my son about his day, I feed him a piece of toast as he walks through the door. Even he has acknowledged the pattern now. “It’s okay, mum. I think I’m just grungry,” he says and heads for the kitchen. What a valuable lesson at such a young age.

Learn to trust that this too shall pass.

The Sibling – Mother experience: it’s all in the Moon

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I had a chat with my eldest son this evening, about the experience of mother.

I explained to him that he has a different mother from his siblings. He, naturally, looked at me as though I had lost my marbles. Stepfathers and half-brothers he can understand… but different mothers, when he knows full well I gave birth to them all…? Hell, he was being ushered out of the house past the birthing pool in the kitchen minutes before the last one decided to put in his appearance!

I told him it wasn’t that weird, really. I explained that my own four siblings and I have very different experiences of our own mother. And, when he thought about it, he could see that the way he saw and interacted with me was quite different from the way his brothers do. Which isn’t in any way evaluative, incidentally. From my subjective position 😉 I would say that not one of them has a ‘better‘ or ‘worse‘ relationship with me, but each is intrinsically different.

Well of course, I hear you cry, since all your children are different!

And yes, you have a very good point.

But, in keeping with the Lunar articles that have begun this blog, I would go a step further and say that it is also because their Moons are very different. Since Moon describes your mother-experience, and each of my children has a very differently placed and aspected Moon, does it not make sense that they each have a very different experience of me?

My eldest has a Cancer Moon: the Moon at her happiest, a devoted and nurturing home-maker of a mum. He was my first-born and for him I ordered a weekly organic vegetable box, pureed only the very best for his little body, clad his bottom in washable nappies and he never suffered once from nappy rash. The downside to this, of course, is that now that he has reached the grand old age of 11 and started high school, he feels the need to let me know it’s all a bit full-0n. Smothering, even. I need to take my cue and back off a bit. He wants to spread his wings – not the easiest of things to watch happen for a Cancer-Moon mummy.

Compare that to little Bertie: a Pisces Moon. Ruled by Neptune, his grasp of who his Mummy is is likely to be rather more nebulous and uncertain. He is more likely to experience his mother as an ideal that she is not always going to live up to. He’ll have a vision in his mind of who I am and will struggle with being disappointed that I cannot always attain that giddying height! There is a possibility too, I am sad to say, that he will see me as a victim and, conversely, with the Neptunian perfectionism, if I fail to live up to his ideal of ‘Mummy’ then he will feel like a victim.

Of course, as well as them, two of my children have Taurus Moons (a traditional and reliable Mummy, who knows that the way to our hearts is through a good plate of nourishing food; a pair of snuggly pyjamas and lots of cuddles) and, finally, one has a Leo Moon (a dramatic Mummy from whom we want lots of affection, attention and praise and, if we don’t get it, we may become rather dramatic as a result!) All very different, but all with the same Mummy. Me.

Interesting, then, that no matter if you bring your children up in exactly the same manner, with just the same type of mothering and love, their experience of you will be the very one that they need in order to grow, individuate, evolve and make the best of their path. And I say that advisedly because, as challenging a concept as it may seem, even if in spite of your best efforts their experience of you as a mother was not what you would have wished, it was what your children needed to best set them up to work through what they need to in this life.

Moon through the Houses Pt 2: 5th to 8th

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Continuing my exploration of the placement of the Moon in the Nativity, here is the second of three articles looking at the interpretations of the House your child’s Moon falls in. The idea, next,  is that we combine the Moonsign with its House and come up with a third, tailor-made description of the condition of your child’s Moon. After this series, I will be taking one Moonsign through all the Houses as an example of how to do it.

Of course, as ever, these descriptions depict the general principles of the Moon placements. In each individual chart there will be more ease, or indeed more difficult aspects to these Moon placements and you would need to look at the individual Nativity in order to work out whether these principles were easily tapped into by your child, or were the object of a little more sensitivity or difficulty.

Again, if you are not sure where your child’s Moon resides, please feel free to send me their details, and I will happily let you know.

So, let us begin!

Moon in the 5th House:

The 5th is the House of children, romantic love, creativity, and is associated with all things Solar and Leo. The Moon here will therefore have similar energies to that of Moon in Leo: showy, expansive, dramatic and overt, fond of children even from an early age. Lots of lavished affection in both directions, with a happy Moon placement. This little one is likely to hold his or her feelings in quite high regard; to be quite strongly attached or swayed by them, and to be more than happy to discuss them.

Parental tips:

  • This little one is likely to enjoy acting classes!
  • When feeling less than happy, these children can be quite dramatic in their emotional expression and may need a little help regaining some perspective. It will be important that their feelings aren’t belittled though, of course!

Moon in the 6th House:

The 6th is the House of daily life and health and, putting these two together, you have a little one for whom long bouts of unhappiness are likely to manifest into ill health. This is also the House most closely associated with Virgo, so the Moon here is very service-orientated: this little one has an emotional need to be useful. They will thrive in a neat and tidy environment and be hindered by disorder and mess. This is a child for whom helping Mummy around the house is unlikely to be a chore.

Routine is also of vital importance to 6th House Moonchildren. An established and regular routine will keep them emotionally far more stable than a more spontaneous lifestyle.

Parental tips:

  • Beware the vicious cycle of ill-health – unhappiness – ill-health with these Moonchildren. A routine of healthy living and eating will help this situation enormously.
  • The service-nature of this little one is a boon to all he or she meets, but be careful they are not exploited and remember to look after themselves a bit, too.

Moon in the 7th House:

The 7th is the House of partnership, most closely connected with Libra, so the Moon here makes for a little person who is at his or her most emotionally stable when they have a sidekick.  Their true  friendships will be few and profound, and they will perform better in partnership than alone.

Parental tips:

  • If your little one is trying something new and seems out of his or her comfort zone, the difficulty should be eased enormously by providing a helpmate: a trusted friend or sibling should do the trick.
  • Stressful situations, which a child with, say, Moon in the 1st might handle well will not be easy for this little one: they don’t handle crisis well. On the other hand, they are very sociably adept and will shine in company.

Moon in the 8th House:

The 8th is the House of profound transformations and is most closely associated with Scorpio, so this is a little one whose emotions are powerfully intense, and ever-evolving: they are likely to go through transformations as a result of emotional experiences. They will also have a tendency to play their cards very close to their chest, emotionally; it can become a bit of a guessing game which can, as a result of this bottling, become a little explosive when they can no longer keep it in.

A certain intuitive perception of things not always being as they seem is also suggested by this Moon placement, which can also manifest more negatively as a rather suspicious nature, and as a result this little one is likely to love unravelling mysteries, and supernatural stories.

Parental tips:

  • This little one will struggle with apparent superficiality and may need some help to put their feelings in perspective, understanding that others may not have such depth and intensity of emotion, and that’s okay.
  • The 8th House Moonchild can also struggle with expressing his or her emotions, and will probably need some help to open up gently, to understand that it is not so healthy to bottle it up.

 

Moon through the Houses Pt 1: 1st to 4th

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Continuing my exploration of the placement of the Moon in the Nativity, here is the first of three articles looking at the interpretations of the House your child’s Moon falls in. The idea here is that we combine the Moonsign with its House and come up with a third, tailor-made description of the condition of your child’s Moon. After this series, I will be taking one Moonsign through all the Houses as an example of how to do it. The rather exhaustive remainder of combinations will be available eventually in my book. 🙂

Of course, as ever, these descriptions depict the general principles of the Moon placements. In each individual chart there will be more ease, or indeed more difficult aspects to these Moon placements and you would need to look at the individual Nativity in order to work out whether these principles were easily tapped into by your child, or were the object of a little more sensitivity or difficulty.

Again, if you are not sure where your child’s Moon resides, please feel free to send me their details, and I will happily let you know.

So, let us begin!

Moon in the 1st House:

The 1st House in the astrology describes your sense of self, your identity, how others see you, how you interact with the world. With the Moon here, your little one will not find it hard to make friends or to influence people. Their lunar identity can make them very intuitive, too – don’t be surprised if they seem to know how you feel before you do – but they may have a tendency to rely rather too heavily on the emotions, rather than taking a little time to reflect before reacting.

Parental tips:

  • The tendency to wear their hearts on their sleeves can make these little ones really quite vulnerable. Be aware, too, of times when that vulnerability is used as a defence.
  • Just as the Moon waxes and wanes, so can these children seem to change with the tides. Don’t be surprised if they go from loving something to hating it in a heartbeat. Patience and persistence in the learning of constancy would help a great deal.

Moon in the 2nd House:

The 2nd House is all about material security, so for this little one to feel emotionally secure, the material must be dependable. He or she will like to be surrounded by familiar objects and belongings, and is likely to feel more threatened by the unfamiliar. Being the house of possessions, the Moon here also runs the danger of being possessive, especially when things in the rest of their world are unstable.

Parental tips:

  • This is the baby who likes the comfort blanket, or teddy, or fire engine! Something familiar, taken wherever you go, will provide that sense that all is right with the world.

Moon in the 3rd House

The 3rd is the house of siblings and of Gemini influences: changeability, quick-thinking, communication. When you add the Moon to the mix, you have a little one who is very emotionally attached to his or her siblings, whose emotions change with the wind, and who is quite happy to talk about them!

This is also a child who feels safe and secure at school, who is likely to love reading and learning generally: all this is food for their little soul.

Parental tips:

  • This is another little one who needs to take a deep breath and have a good think before reacting to instinctive emotional response.

Moon in the 4th House

The 4th is the house of home and family, of the opposite sex parent. This Moonchild is likely to be a little home-bunny; in good aspect, the Moon is very happy here in Cancer’s domain, and will produce an empathic and considerate family-focused child; a mini-mummy.

Parental tips:

  • With Moon in the 4th (and therefore Cancer’s home), this child is likely to pull back, crablike, into his or her shell when feeling unstable or insecure.
Next: Moon through the Houses Pt2: 5th to 8th.
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